How to Cope in a Sexless Marriage

The first thing you need to know about how to cope in a sexless marriage is that you must be careful not to let the situation affect your self esteem.
If your partner does not want to have sex with you, this can be hurtful, and you have to be careful to make sure that you don’t then start to take all of the blame on yourself. In most cases, it has taken two people to arrive at this situation even if it is only one of the couple who has stopped wanting sex.

When you are thinking about how to cope in a sexless marriage, try to see the situation how an outsider would see it. Sometimes we can find ourselves far too close to a situation to be objective about it. So try to step back a little bit from the problem and see if you can get a slightly different viewpoint on it.
Be honest about how you behave with each other and look to see if there is any subtle behaviour that could be escalating the problem.
Regardless of how the situation arose in the first place you need to be true to yourself, always. Look after yourself. Take an interest in your appearance and aim to be as healthy as possible. This isn’t just about making sure you are attractive to your partner. This is about YOU, and feeling good about yourself.
Yes, of course you need to focus on the relationship and how you can improve it but don’t ignore yourself along the way. After all, if you don’t feel good about yourself how can you expect to feel good about your relationship?
Once you are in a stronger position, physically and mentally, you can then concentrate on where your marriage is heading.
Assuming that you want to stay together, you need to start talking about the current situation and work together on restoring the intimacy to your relationship. Make sure that you’re careful not to lay blame on your partner. It takes two to get in a rut and let things slide, remember.
Figuring out how to cope in a sexless marriage is never easy, particularly if you feel isolated and not really part of a couple. But remember that most sexless marriages can be turned around for the better, providing that this is what most parties want. And it all starts with that all important communication.

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